The guest article below couldn’t be a more excellent lead-in to what we having coming your way this Thursday (November 19th): another LWL Investigative Report, this time not about the foolery that goes on behind the scenes in the ‘self-help’ arena, but about RELATIONSHIPS.

That’s right… as the masses take certain aspects of relationship-based personal development to some head-scratching extremes, we’re going to tackle the issue of how the cryptic term “unconscious commitment” is used to justify failure, or condemn and control somebody else.

So, be on the lookout for our 20-page report, Committed To Commitment, on Thursday.

Below, Roy H. Williams gives his view of “commitment,” as it relates to experiencing life in all its glory. Since everything we do in this life — or nearly everything — is about relating to others, we want to pass this on as a sorta preparatory read for what we’ll be staggering you with in two days.

My Holiday Gift To You… For Real

By Roy H. Williams

Tom Hennen has a line in his poem, The Life of a Day, that says,

“We examine each day before us with barely a glance and say, ‘no, this isn’t one I’ve been looking for,’ and wait in a bored sort of way for the next, when we are convinced, our lives will start for real.”

That line is a little bit frightening because you read it and realize you’re guilty. You’ve been waiting for that day when your life will start “for real.”

The trouble with life is that it’s just so daily.

I share this with you because I’ve been thinking about my two grandfathers who are dead and my father who is likewise and I’ve come to the obvious conclusion:

Live while you have the chance.

“Papa was a rolling stone. Wherever he laid his hat was his home…” – The Temptations, 1971

In the final moments of his life, my father scribbled a note for me to find. In barely legible pencil he scrawled, “All the little things in life add up to your life. If you don’t get it right then nothing else matters. It gets lonely in the promised land by yourself.”

My Dad died lonely, I think, because he never made deep commitments. My father’s confession of his loneliness makes me sad, but his scribbled note tells me he wanted me to learn from his mistake.

I meet a lot of people who sigh deeply and say they’re looking for their passion, something to set their souls on fire and send beams of light shining out through their eyes.

But the people with light shining from their eyes know this….

Passion does NOT produce commitment.
Commitment produces passion.

Solomon, that wise king, spent years of his life searching for passion. In chapter 9 of the chronicle of that search, the book of Ecclesiastes, Solomon writes, “Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might, for in the grave, where you are going, there is neither working nor planning nor knowledge nor wisdom.”

People read that and think Solomon is saying, “Eat, drink and be merry, for tomorrow you may die,” but that’s not it at all. He’s saying, “Throw your whole heart into whatever you do. Live while you have the chance.”

This is my Holiday gift to you,
I hope you will receive it:

Find something that needs to be done
and throw yourself headlong into it.

Let today
be the day
your life begins
for real.

Roy H. Williams

“May you live all the days of your life.”
– Jonathan Swift, author of Gulliver’s Travels

Christmas Gift Advice: Little ones? Pennie and I got one of these for our grandson and he loves it, loves it, loves it.

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