Committed to Commitment (Investigative Report)
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A long, long time ago, I remember hearing a spiritual teacher, Vernon Howard, tell this story. He was talking about how a man and a woman met one night at a party. They introduced themselves, each supplying their reasons for attending the party.
The man smiled and asked her, “Are you looking for a nice man?”
“I think“, the woman sighed, “I’m looking for myself.”
The honest lady in this story expressed a deep yearning to find her true nature. Millions of us are looking for the same thing. Really knowing who you are is the foundation for building a richer, fuller, complete life.
As I’ve evolved in my spiritual and personal growth, I’ve come to know that my ability to use the many principles that Heather and I have talked about throughout this blog over the years are inextricably linked to how we view and handle relationships.
Because, without them (our genuine conversations and connections to each other and others), we truly couldn’t see ourselves the way we really are.
As we’ve written about several times: “We humans are such wonderful mirrors for each other.“
All the relationship teachers we know will be the first to tell you that no one was born (not even them) knowing how to create and keep a great relationship. But, as you begin to learn much more about yourself, open up your heart, and start making more conscious choices, you will begin to attract more pleasant and profitable relationships into your life.
It’s the “conscious” part that we’re tackling in our report.
As the masses take certain aspects of relationship-based personal development to some head-scratching extremes, we’re going to tackle the issue of how the cryptic term “unconscious commitment” is used to justify failure, or condemn and control somebody else.
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I could start telling long story about committed to commitment. However it would take space and some private details, maybe even a some positive comments. (maybe I was a “good” boy?).
However, there is, in my experience something like a “FORCED” committed to commitment, well, to make it clear …. is it then not any longer a commitment?
We can be “forced” to be committed by and through a belief system, (religions), even through political issues (I lived as a young teenager during WWII in Europe and yes, there were “forces” at work and many adults had to be committed to “the forcing power commitment”.
Am I clear enough here? Any ideas from someone?
Thank you, René
I’m confused after reading the commited to commitment report. I felt like I was reading a satire. The one thing I did get from the report is that those things you find irritating or offensive in others are usually a mirror of your own thoughts/actions/beliefs.
I think it’s universally true that actions and beliefs are always congruent.
So I guess it all comes down to results in the end. But even that is a misleading statement because the middle may feel like the end.
Sometimes you have to just hold on…
[Heather’s REPLY]:
Hi Lyn,
I don’t know if I can help you to understand what we’ve written; as always, we’re pretty clear in what we say. Perhaps your confusion stems from an unwillingness to look at your OWN relationship issues, I’m not sure.
Yes, the mirror effect is often in play. In fact, it might be in effect here, because you found the report confusing… and yet you’ve written this confusing bit:
“So I guess it all comes down to results in the end. But even that is a misleading statement because the middle may feel like the end. Sometimes you have to just hold on…”
There are many “ends” during each process, Lyn. Whether you’re talking about achieving a goal, and accomplishing many little steps along the way… or meeting a deadline, and dividing the work up into chunks… or cooking dinner, or making laundry, there are many mini milestones before the big one.
If you break it down, everything you do (including relationships) is a smaller version of life as a whole… a journey and not a destination.
I’m not sure how you’re relating that to what you understood from the report, but thanks for the comment.