{"id":36,"date":"2008-02-18T07:13:29","date_gmt":"2008-02-18T11:13:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lwlworldwide.com\/blog\/real-raw-and-rewarding-relationship\/"},"modified":"2008-02-18T07:55:57","modified_gmt":"2008-02-18T11:55:57","slug":"real-raw-and-rewarding-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lwlworldwide.com\/blog\/real-raw-and-rewarding-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"Real, Raw, and Rewarding Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"

This morning I was lying in a hot bubble-bath that my sweetie, Barry, drew for me… and as I soaked and relaxed, I read People Magazine<\/em> (yes, I like to read stuff that doesn’t take much thought, and that won’t matter if I get it wet when I’m in the bath… and sometimes — just sometimes — I’ll find something inspirational in there).<\/p>\n

Today’s inspiration came in the form of a short pictorial called “Hollywood’s Quickest Marriages<\/em>“.<\/p>\n

It followed an article on Eddie Murphy and Tracey Edmonds, who recently split just 14 days after getting married on an island paradise.<\/p>\n

I remembered some of these stories, even though most of them were lost in the recesses of my mind… but the page got me thinking.<\/p>\n

Here’s what I found out (with some added commentary of my own):<\/p>\n

In 1994, Drew Barrymore was married to a bar owner named Jeremy Thomas for a whole 17 days. He blamed her fame for the split (like he didn’t know she was famous before they got married).<\/p>\n

In 1998, Carmen Electra and Dennis Rodman were married for a whopping 9 days. He claimed he was intoxicated — but whether that was before, during or after the short marriage is unclear.<\/p>\n

Britney Spears and Jason Alexander (a young friend, not the Seinfeld<\/em> actor) were also intoxicated when they decided to get married in Las Vegas in 2004. It apparently started as a “joke” and lasted 55 hours… her next marriage went on a little longer, but wasn’t any more of a model relationship.<\/p>\n

Renee Zellweger and Kenny Chesney knew each other for 4 months before they got married… but the 2005 marriage only lasted 128 days. She claimed “fraud” when filing for annulment, but I’m not sure what she thought was so fraudulent about it. Isn’t it our own responsibility to know someone (heart, mind and soul) before committing through saying “I do”?<\/p>\n

Nicolas Cage and Lisa Marie Presley stuck it out for 108 days before ending their marriage because, as she said, they were both like 12-year-olds. Again, that seems like something they would have figured out before tying the knot.<\/p>\n

Pamela Anderson was engaged to Kid Rock for 4 years, but married to him for only 4 months. Hmmm… is that better or worse than marrying rocker Tommy Lee after knowing him 4 days, and going through a rocky on-again-off-again marriage for about 4 years? (Lots of rocks in this girl’s life!) Anyhow, Pam said after the Kid Rock split that they just didn’t belong together… something you would think she’d discover at some point during those years before the wedding.<\/p>\n

Shannen Doherty is almost a long-distance runner after all these marriage sprints… at the time it seemed like it was over in the blink of an eye, but her marriage to Ashley Hamilton in 1993 did at least make it to the 6-month mark.<\/p>\n

But according to People, the fastest marriage of all time was Zsa Zsa Gabor’s 8th, to a “playboy” named Felipe De Alba in 1982… she disappeared from his life forever a DAY after marrying him, saying that he BORED<\/em> her. Wow! Must have been a reeaaaallllyyyyy looooonnnnggg day!<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Alright, so why the heck did I get any inspiration from all this?<\/p>\n

And what about those of us that live in the “real world”… what can we learn from it?<\/p>\n

Click the link below to find out my thoughts…<\/p>\n

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Celebrities in Hollywood and the world of rock ‘n’ roll (or whatever music you happen to like) always seem to have it all… the money, the fame, the beauty. They do what they love, love what they do, and become prosperous doing it. People all around the world either want to be like<\/em> them… or to be with<\/em> them.<\/p>\n

And yet, time and again, we discover that the personal relationships of these artists in the spotlight just isn’t up to par.<\/p>\n

Some personal growth experts say that this is based on our value system — that we choose what areas in life we excel at based on what we value, and that if someone is doing well in several areas of their lives, they have to suffer somewhere else as result (remember, the universe is always in balance)… so that means if “relationship” isn’t high on their list of priorities, they can’t have thriving, healthy relationships.<\/p>\n

So not only have they never learned to “do relationship right”, but it hasn’t even been a priority to figure out how.<\/p>\n

(And it’s not just marriages that are short-lived in Hollywood… it seems that actors often switch up boyfriends and girlfriends as often as they change movie roles.)<\/p>\n

But those of us living in the “real world” (not the fake, glittery, made up entertainment world that thrives on pasteurized messages and idealized images, even when its cast members are apparently “off set” and just “being themselves”) understand that “doing relationship right” requires some work.<\/p>\n

And we understand that it’s worth it<\/em> to do that work… because not only is love the most powerful manifesting emotion of all — and not only does love truly conquer all — but we value relationship as one of the areas of life that deserve our attention.<\/p>\n

Sometimes we’re afraid (of change, of commitment, of intimacy, of sharing our deepest souls and thoughts with another person)… but we can overcome that fear, if we want to.<\/p>\n

Sometimes we just don’t know what to do (when the other person moves too fast, or too slow, or “makes us” angry, or doesn’t understand us)… but we can learn what to do, if we want to.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Relationships can be short-lived, shallow or just-for-fun. Sometimes that can be a relationship’s whole purpose in our lives. But we need to listen to our hearts about when to hold ’em, and when to fold ’em.<\/p>\n

They are not old rags, dried out slices of bread, or pieces of garbage to be casually tossed aside like something not worth thinking about after a few days or weeks.<\/p>\n

Marriages are also not a band-aid quick fix or magic pill to repair a relationship that’s already broken; by the time we say “I do” we should know what we’re “I do”ing to. Otherwise, maybe it’s time to say, “I don’t” and truly mean it.<\/p>\n

Yes, relationships can often not work out in the long run, but when we commit more deeply to another person (by marrying them, or by moving in with them), we certainly do so after having the chance to get to know them intimately, understanding what makes them tick, and choosing to take that relationship to the next level.<\/p>\n

Sometimes we outgrow a relationship — two people who may have shared values at one point discover that they no longer do — but that growth usually happens over time, with our eyes wide open, and we can choose at that point to end it or work on fixing it, depending how strong our values are that are now being compromised.<\/p>\n

Not knowing the other person, or suddenly feeling you’re not meant to be together, is not an excuse… if you know how to ask yourself, and how to listen, you’ll know whether you’re meant to be with that person or not before you make any huge relationship blunders.<\/p>\n

There’s one person I know who teaches how to “do relationship right” better than anybody else.<\/p>\n

Her name is Zen DeBrucke, and not only is she doing a powerful six-part relationship tele-course with us called Relationship Magic Unwrapped<\/a>, but she’ll be doing a second free pre-call with me on Tuesday, Feb. 19th.<\/p>\n

You can sign up at no cost here<\/a>… or watch my video below to see a few frequently asked questions answered about whether it might be right for you:<\/p>\n

<\/embed><\/center>And if you’re looking for a heart-warming and inspiring way to share your relationship joys with others, to treasure the moments you have and to see the big-picture view of why you’re together with someone… Barry and I gave some great recommendations in yesterday’s blog post<\/a>.<\/p>\n

The last video resource is my favorite, because not only is it either free or very inexpensive, depending on the level you choose, but it’s so easy that anyone can do it.<\/p>\n

A while back, we recommended Mind Movies<\/a> as the #1 manifestation tool of 2007… and that certainly holds true, especially if you want to create something in just a few hours that you can use every day, and will take your manifestation results to the next level — even if you don’t know what to do, or what to say, or how to best choose images to make it happen.<\/p>\n

Mind Movies<\/a> is based on the concepts of visualization and affirmations, combined with your own favorite images and music to really get you jacked up and headed towards the reality you want to create.<\/p>\n

It’s a very effective — and cost-effective — way to use tried-and-true metaphysical techniques to manifest the life of your dreams. And it walks you through everything step-by-step.<\/p>\n

But consider this… (shhh… don’t tell Natalie and Ryan of Mind Movies<\/a> what we’re about to tell you!)<\/p>\n

If you ALREADY know what images (or even videos) you want to use in your visualization, and you ALREADY know how to use affirmations, and what affirmations you would like to see daily (that will move you towards the reality you want)… you can DO ALL THAT with the final resource that we talk about here<\/a>… and it does it automatically for you, and an unbelievable price, and even allows you to create DVDs or upload to YouTube at the click of a button.<\/p>\n

Yes, there are stock images and music selections there for you if you don’t have your own images and\/or music — but yes, you can also customize as much as you like, and make transitions, audios mixes, and special effects that all happen automatically.<\/p>\n

Pretty cool… and so easy it’s ridiculous.<\/p>\n

And if you just want to enjoy seeing your vacations, or your pets, or your kids, or your accomplishments, or your fun times, or your romantic moments, in a cool little video\/music presentation that you can watch to inspire you about the good times past, present and future — or give easily to your friends and loved ones on DVD — you’ll love it too.<\/p>\n

Or if you want to start a fun little business creating relationship montages, or wedding montages, or graduation montages, or vacation montages, for other people… that’s a fun idea that’s also entrepreneurial.<\/p>\n

Find out more from our blog post<\/a>… or go straight to LWLMedia here<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Your Partner in the Quest For
\nLiving a Life Without Limits,<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Heather<\/strong><\/p>\n

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